How to get unstuck

You’re feeling stuck, stagnant, helpless, lethargic and even a little hopeless. The things you’ve tried to implement in the past haven’t worked so you stop trying. Maybe it’s become a little less energetically draining not to try rather to try and fail… again.

Maybe you’ve tried setting some healthier goals for yourself like a nighttime routine, exercise or morning meditation but it doesn’t last. Sometimes, our internal saboteur is the one keeping us stuck.

Where you are has accidentally become your comfort zone so, it feels safer to stay here.

Sometimes when we’re trying to uplevel and improve our lives, a part of us senses danger and doesn’t want to face the uncertainty of CHANGE.

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It can be uncomfortable to change, for sure. We have to face some obstacles like discipline or sacrifice or even overcoming our own internal limiting beliefs in order to get to the other side. Once we’re on the other side of those blocks however, we can re-create our comfort zone and allow ourselves to embrace the upleveled version of ourselves.

Try to identify what gets in your way when you try to implement healthy changes in your life.

What are some of the blocks you tend to meet?

Fill in the blanks below to uncover some of the blocks:

• I plan and start off good but then _______________x_____________ happens.

• When I don’t meet my goal I tend to say ___________x___________ to myself in my mind.

A limiting belief is a sometimes subconscious or conscious belief about yourself that holds you back in some way. They are often false but got internalized by some event in childhood. Because limiting beliefs get so easily formed in childhood, they can often be very sneaky to the point that you don’t even realize they are there until you start doing your inner work.

When we begin to grow in self-awareness and observe our inner dialogue we start to witness the amount of unhelpful things we say to ourselves.

Some of these beliefs will be in the form of identities we’ve accidentally attached ourselves to.

For example; maybe in your family you grew up as ‘the lazy one’, or the ‘active one’. Maybe you were supported in most things you wanted to do or told ‘no, you’re not cut out for that’. Maybe you’ve been deemed either the ‘good child’ or the ‘bad child’.

Each one of these identities can be informing beliefs you hold about yourself and therefore be influencing what you do or don’t do in your adult life.

One of my old childhood memories is actually a pivotal example of this.

I was in primary school and I realized I was the ‘chubbier one’ so when it came to sports day somehow I formed the belief that I could only try out for the tug-o-war team. (I don’t remember how I formed this belief- I must have got the idea from somewhere, but I don’t specifically remember anyone telling me anything). It wasn’t until my sister and I were playing in the yard at home and she had me practice leap frog with her.

I never even dared to try

leapfrog before because I thought I couldn’t because I was heavier and chubbier.

It was literally a revelation when I decided to try and realized I could actually do it! Sounds so simple yet even as I recall it now, I can feel what a pivotal moment this was for me. Not only could I do it, I was actually kind of good.

In my final year of primary school, I got onto the leapfrog team for sports day!

I had put myself into an identity box which held the belief of activities I could and couldn’t do. When I took myself out of that box, I defied my own limiting belief and formed a new one- I could try anything I wanted and even possibly succeed.

• What subtle identities do you think you hold about yourself or have maybe been told about yourself?

• What are some of the corresponding beliefs? How might these be holding you back from making the changes you want to see in your life?

We are diving deep into our limiting beliefs, unhelpful identities and how to clear them inside of my 6 week online group transformational program called The Alchemical Passage. We start in September, click here to learn more.